I think they misunderstand it because the male mind has been conditioned by females to think that sex is a favor that women do for men. Most bottoms see themselves in a female role so they adopt the female way of thinking. Well if the female way of thinking was working why are men shoving dick in us. The last thing I wanna do is be like a female. I'm grateful, eager to please, very submissive, open to being used whenever called upon, proud to be his slut, respond positively to being called a slut, bitch, whore, etc... Most importantly I understand my role is to shut up and take dick, and ultimately that's what I'm thankful for.
You said something profoundly true. All of us who want, need and yearn for good dick should understand that our Top's do us the favor by fucking us hard. It's a benefit and a prize for US. In movies and elsewhere, they try to depict us Bottoms as people who are giving something up to the people who fuck us. As if it's a transaction (or taking) of something from us, including our dignity. No. The only thing being taken away is cum. From the Top. Like you said: We're not giving him ass, he's giving us good dick. And in my opinion, the reason so many people get it backwards is because of two basic misunderstandings. 1. They don't know how good it feels to get fucked in the ass. 2. They have no concept of the notion of someone who is proud, happy, and blessed to be a Bottom. Who craves a hard dick in the ass. I always thank the people who cum in and on me.
It's hard at first when the cock makes its way into the anus and the pain becomes almost unbearable. The feeling is all the more indescribable when the anus relaxes and the pain turns into ecstasy and the top thrusts harder and harder until he comes. Afterwards I am always exhausted. But that's exactly what I love.
My first time being topped was a similar experience. Young bbc pounded me pretty hard and it lasted a good 15 minutes. I had told him before we began it was my first time. I was sore for two weeks.
Nothing like a face down ass up painaling to show whitebois who is the boss. My wife and daughters love watching me take t like the little dick sissy I am.
Getting my wife’s black bull to breed me was a gradual process of starting off worshipping his feet, sucking his toes, licking clean his load dripping out my wife’s pussy onto his feet to getting to suck on his balls while my wife sucked him or fucked him, burying his ass deep in my face and licking his asshole clean to getting to suck him off and finally after seeing how willing I was he just bent me over and fucked me until I forgot where I was and who I was.